Nobody likes having quiet or even silent sex. It’s a complete turn-off and a
recipe for a very dull sex life.
That’s why I am going to teach you exactly how to talk dirty to your man with
this Dirty Talking Guide so that you can build sexual tension, keep him
deeplyattracted to you and most importantly so that you have incredible sex.
If you want to skip straight to the dirty talk phrases below click here or keep
reading to discover exactly how to start talking dirty to your man to get
Right now, you are reading the first chapter of the Dirty Talking Guide…On
this page, you’re going to learn different dirty talking phrases to use. You can
click here to skip straight to them or keep reading to learn how and why you
should be using dirty talk in your relationship.
Dirty Talking Tips Podcast
As well as reading the in-depth Dirty Talking Guide below, you may want to
listen to the podcast I recorded on how to talk dirty to make your man
obsessed, build sexual tension and turn him on.
Why Learn To Talk Dirty In The First Place?
The first step in learning how to talk dirty to your man is understanding why
you should be doing it.
Many women think using dirty talk phrases like the ones below is something
that’s reserved for the bedroom only. It certainly does make sex more
enjoyable, but it works in so many other areas of your relationship too.
Build Sexual Tension – By far the most powerful benefit of talking dirty to
your guy is that it increases the sexual tension between you and him. Sexual
tension is the core building block of having a passionate, enjoyable
relationship with a guy you’re deeply attracted to.
I often get emails from students despairing, and they all follow the same
pattern…heck you may even be in this situation yourself. You are in a long
term relationship or marriage. You love your man, but as the relationship
progressed, he’s become more a friend and a roommate instead of someone
who gets you hot and bothered.
Instead of always trying to rip each others clothes off, you’re both struggling to
get aroused and get in the mood for sex. You may have even tried multiple
“tricks” or “formulas” you learned online to get the spark back…but it didn’t
Sexual tension is the key.
It’s that magical feeling that keeps you thinking about each other, wanting to
be physically close and gets you completely aroused when you’re in each
Talking dirty to your boyfriend or husband is the absolute best way to build
sexual tension with him. You can learn some dirty talk phrases that will build
sexual tension here.
Intense Sex – Using dirty talk can enhance and intensify your sex life. You
can scream and shout all sorts of filthy, dirty profanities while you and your
man are getting it on or trying BDSM. “Fuck me harder,” “I want to taste your
cum,” “I love your cock!”
You can also use a bunch of other freaky and dirty talking phrases that make
for more sensual, sexy love making. Whispering in his ear, “Don’t stop, I love
it” or “You feel incredible” is going to work much differently, but it’s still going
to have a great outcome. You can learn more dirty talking phrases to use for
more intense sex here.
Keep Him Thinking About You – Building sexual tension with your man
is one obvious benefit to using the dirty talking phrases in this guide. An
additional benefit is that it will keep him thinking of you.
There’s nothing worse than when your man travels for work, is posted abroad,
or he has an overly friendly and flirty female co-worker. Using the right kind
of dirty talk with him will keep him constantly thinking about you, fantasizing
about when he’s next going to see you and eagerly awaiting the next time you
call or message him. You can learn some example dirty talk phrases to keep
your man thinking about you here.
When you combine building sexual tension, keeping your man thinking about
you and having intense sex, you can probably see just how beneficial talking
dirty can be for your relationship.
How To Talk Dirty To Your Man – Step By
Now that we have discussed why you need to talk dirty to your man, it’s time
to learn how to do it.
- Start In The Shallow End Of The Pool – If you suddenly start talking
dirty to your man and are being extremely explicit, then there is a chance that
he is going to get a little freaked out, especially if it’s the last thing that he’d
normally expect from you.
It’s a much better idea to slowly introduce dirty talk that is not too extreme or
‘out there’ or explicit. Start slowly and build up to the more intense stuff.
- Begin In The Bedroom – You’ll also find that it’s easiest and most
natural to introduce dirty talk in the bedroom or when you are both alone.
This way there is far less pressure.
Once you get comfortable talking dirty to your man in private, then start
experimenting elsewhere. There’s nothing more exciting than seeing your
man’s reaction when you lean in and whisper something filthy in his ear while
you’re both in a crowded bar!
- Tailor It To His Tastes – Almost every guy on the planet adores it when
you talk dirty to him, but…it’s vital that you quickly learn what type of dirty
talk phrases he likes most. Some guys prefer it when you are subtle and even
polite with your dirty talk while others prefer it when you are super explicit.
So your man might love it when you say something simple and subtle like, “I
can’t wait to get you home,” while you are both at church. Or he may prefer it
when you use incredibly explicit dirty talk like, “I can’t wait till we get home
so I can get down on my knees and feel your cock throbbing in my mouth.”
Or perhaps he even has a praise kink.
The key is finding out which type of dirty talk works best on your man by
experimenting and trying it out in different ways, whether that’s sending him
dirty text messages like the 43 sexts you’ll find here and the 11 extra dirty
messages here, or using these 64 dirty talk examples, these 91 extra dirty
things to say to him or just asking him some dirty, naughty questions,
like these 69 sexy questions.
- Tailor It To Your Tastes – Of course you want to talk dirty in a way that
turns your man on, this is obvious. But don’t forget that you need to be having
fun too! So many women forget this.
If you feel uncomfortable using explicit language while talking dirty to your
man or if you don’t like the idea of sending him dirty text messages, don’t feel
that you have to! The key is making dirty talk work for you.
However, my advice is that you should try it out first before deciding whether
or not it’s for you.
It’s totally natural to feel a little nervous and even shy when you first start
talking dirty to your man or when you try something new. As you do it more
and more and see your husband’s positive reaction, your confidence will grow.
- Don’t Force It! – The advice you read here is just that; it’s advice. It’s not
a rigid law that works flawlessly every time or in every situation. Anyone that
claims to have a secret, “magic formula” for talking dirty that works every time
So if you try a particular dirty talking technique a few times and never get the
reaction you’re looking for, DON’T FEEL LIKE YOU HAVE TO KEEP DOING
IT! Just forget about that technique and try something else. Through this
process of trial and error, seeing what works for you and what doesn’t, you’ll
slowly build up an encyclopedia of dirty talking phrases and strategies that will
keep your man obsessed.
Some women find that the dirty talk that benefits them the most is the more
explicit, “out there” kind while others find that very subtle dirty talk works
best. Some excel at phone sex while others get better results from dirty text
messages. They key is focusing on what works best for you.
- The Great Dirty Talking Lie – There is a misconception that many
women have when they are learning to talk dirty, it’s a trap I hope that you
won’t fall into. Some women think that the best way to talk dirty is to be very
explicit and aggressive.
As you read the chapters of this guide and try out some of the dirty talk
phrases below, you’ll quickly realize that being subtle when you talk dirty to
your man can often be more intense and powerful than being aggressive or
For example, while you are at a party with your man, leaning into him and
softly whispering, “If theses people weren’t around, I would do terrible things
to you,” and then giving him a cheeky grin before continuing your
conversation like normal is crazy powerful. It’s going to blow your man away.
He’ll be constantly wondering what you meant, what you are going to do to
him after the party and, of course, he’s going to be very turned on too.
But you didn’t even say anything that outrageous. Keep this in mind as you
experiment and learn to talk dirty and you will have one very happy man who
is completely addicted to you and only you.